Being positive is it actually a strategy- or a skill or is it just one of those platitudes….fake it till you make it. It does actually work, so don’t knock it-the more you practice the easier it becomes and the more skilled you become at changing what you feel experience and see. Reframing- the more you actually do just that, change your perspective, see it differently..the more you are able to see the positives..does that make it a life-hack then?
Does that mean you have to be forever shackled to smiling your way through with an irreverent “fine” and a disingenuous smile.
There are odd days though, and just occasional moments when there is no ability to fake it until you make it. Days where for some reason it was just all too much and you found yourself falling into the biggest blackest hole and knowing that the best course of action was not to try to see it as a bright and airy space with hidden silver linings but to accept the dank and dismal despair and let it wash over you like an incoming tide and just own it. Allow its waves to lap quietly at the edge of your soul and know that the darkness comes before the light and whatever pain washes over you is there to be experienced and cherished as much as all the other things.
Johan Tobias Sergel [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons
Plunging into Despair.